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Was something about a model pic. Can repost it in the group if you havent seen.

We did some window shopping and stuff. I often go to the Hollister and Abercrombie Stores and tell them I worked for that company. Also she had to eat that huge 10$ dollar ice cream cone. With good convo that worked very well.

One thing to add is that this girl wasnt very responsive until I made retarded, funny comment about one of her model pics which she really enjoyed...so we somehow have a similar sense of humor maybe...

I had a Date scheduled with a tall HB 7,5 I also met from Nightgame. She told me an hour before that she ll show up with her female friend that flew in from another city, so I cancelled the whole thing and told her we ll do it another day. Now I had to find sth else to do for the evening. I was going through my wechat texting some girls that might have time. HBPetite was very responsive because I left a funny comment on photoshopped picture of her the day before where I acted a bit retarded and she found it to be very funny. She was hungry and I convinced her to have a meal at Tai Koo Li instead of having some fried rice by herself. We met at Tai Koo Li, had some foreign food, she didnt liked it(truffle cream tagliatelle, WTF dish directly from heavens gate and u DONT LIKE it....) but that was okay. I of course paid for everything. Because she didnt liked it I suggested some ice cream as a dessert. She then accidentally bought an 10$ ice cream cone I also paid for( lol fuck me, right?). After that we walked around the area for another hour and had fun conversation about her and me.Her last EXes were foreigners I found out. Speaks fluent English and is quite smart, so it was all fun and interesting. After a while I brought up that I need help with my projector at my new place. I acted like I didnt know how to search for foreign movies. She agreed and we walked home. We watched a comedy on my uncomfortable couch (have to replace that) . I did cuddling kino and escalated throughout the movie. Already had intense makeouts before the movie ended but she actually wanted to finish it. After the movie things went their natural way and I closed easily. The Sex had a very vanilla and romantic vibe to it. After the first round she told me that she wanted to stay overnight. But she needed some make up removal and contact liquid. So we went downstairs and I bought some and a phone charger since she uses an Iphone. After that round 2. The next day she stayed until afternoon, she felt very comfortable at my place. I really like this girl, she is probably the most attractive I have banged yet. I enjoyed her company and I am looking forward to see her again.

Anthony de Mello is an indian Jesuitian Priest. The talk I am reviewing is held in front of a fairly young adience, not necessarily your typical church audience. He starts off by explaining the importance of listening. He found out that it doesnt make sense to try to teach somebody who doesnt want to listen. He uses a lot of stories and metaphors to get his point across. He tells the story of an indian guy who only has 6 months to live. Those 6 months were the happiest time of his life. Anthony de Mello emphasises that your life is in a mess if you dont enjoy every second of it. Every upset and every form of negativity inside of you means that your life is in a mess. He tells another story of guy who goes to a tribe in South Africa. The land of that tribe has a lot of diamonds, the natives dont know how precious they are. So they give him a basket full of those diamonds. He sells the diamonds and uses the money to buy the land from the tribe and becomes the richest man in the world afterwards. ADM says we often dont know what precious things we already posses. A metaphor for our life and that we dont know how precious that alone is. "The more occupied we are with something, the more we forget" is what we says. A fisherman finds a box on the beach one night. It is full of flat stones. He playfully throws them in the water not really checking what they are. When the sun begins to rise, he sees that those are diamonds.He only has a few left. A metaphor to that we often dont know how precious our life is, so we throw it away beeing upset, refusing to listen and beeing unhappy. A man is standing in the ocean. There are waves that make beeing there inconvinient. He asks people to make the waves stop somehow. He could just get out of the water but he refuses to. ADM says that we often want to stay in our bad state. We want to be miserable. You dont have to do anything to be happy. A crazy thought, ADM says. Beeing happy is crazy for the average person. He also talks about dependance in relationship. Beeing attached to another person leads to beeing unhappy. True love is not beeing attached to somebody. "I dont want to be happy. I wanna be miserable with you." "The route to sorrow is desire, so we must be desirelessness" "The route to sorrow is attachment, so we must be attachmentless" He tells another story of an african tribe that had no fear about things that didnt happen. Why would they worry about something that is not? Its like fish that is afraid of drowning. Beeing upset doesnt do anything. Because reality is not upsetting. It is the human that is making us upset, or our "programming" as he calls it. Then he goes back to the attachment topic. We should not be attached to be people. Even if they die, there is no real reason for suffering. I would probably disagree with that, it is a nice thought to be so unattached and present in the moment, but if we are honest...I dont think any of us would proceed that event like ADM tells us to. "We shall never be upset. Reality is not upsetting. The human mind is what is making you upset." If a person is making you upset, that means you are punishing yourself for other people's mistakes. That doesnt make any sense for ADM. In that context he tells a story about a man who always bought his newspaper from an unfriendly kiosk. When he was ask why he does that he answered that the unfriendly kiosk owner doesnt get to decide where he buys his newspaper. He just didnt get upset about it. Another story about beeing not attached: A man gives another man a diamond. The man becomes rich, but quickly is in doubt about himself and the situation. He returns to the other man and says "could you give me the riches that made you give this away so easily?" Meaning: We are already happy if we are unattached to all external things. Attachment is a false belief emphasises ADM. In my personal opinion "A rediscovery of life" is somehow similar to Eckhart Tolle's teachings. Both is about letting go and not beeing attached to what is externally happening to you. Also the programming of the mind is not to be trusted and therefore also our emotions. I think Eckhart Tolle is a little more practical because you also have the act of mediation coming with it. ADM also makes it seem like what he preaches is super easy to apply but I want to see someone not beeing upset when somebody close dies. I also dont really relate to his persona to be honest and his clownish tonality and way of presenting things, but he might be just a really happy guy. ShinChoc can really relate to the guy, which is good for him but probably wouldnt have watched reviewed the whole video without his recommendation. I will try to be less attached to the outcome and the result while learning game and try to not be emotional about everything. Also I will try to be less upset about external influences like noise or people beeing rude. Things you get a lot here in China. So I guess in the end the video did something for me and I should thank ShinChoc for that. It had some impact but nmaybe not the same as for him.

mini fr: tuesday night out with danny we went out to lan kwai fong. goal was 3 approaches , at least one on the dancefloor. not a lot to approach in revolution, too many mixed sets. we went to jellyfish. danny told me i should be more concrete with my routine, bc i often dont know what to do or say. on the way to jellyfish i approached a group of mediocre xinjiang girls. asked which club the best is. in jellyfish i approached some girls danny choose me to approach. then he wanted me to dancefloor aproach via some hip movement which really is not my kind of style i noticed quickly. so,.i approached a lot if random sets on the dancefloor just asking if they speak chinese. got some laughs but didnt pursue anything further. outside i approached a girl that was interested in mine and dannys conversation. reapproached her later also and got the wechat. HB7 from harbin. we left soon after that. i approached 10-12 sets that night. so a lot more then i expected. main reason was danny constantly pushing to do stuff. thx for that.

I like Asian girls a lot. In my relationships with them was very little drama compared to relationships with western girls. Asian girls usually don’t give me a reason to leave them because they didn’t do anything wrong. But there comes a point where you have to since I don’t plan to marry them and circumstances change. Then you dump then or leave them. It’s sad. My ex(Indonesian) is the best example. I probably would have ended up marrying her, if I would gotten a normal job back in Germany. I left her because I wanted to stay in China. Was difficult for both of us, but probably more for her than for me. She told me that her life felt empty without me. I actually think I would have made her happy, provided her with some kind of family since my family loved her and she had issues with hers and that she would have been a great mother. But I wasn’t ready for that. My suga mama did a lot for me. Took care of me when I was at the hospital, helped me with organizing and managing my life since I can read Chinese and provided an overall higher quality of life for me back in Jinan. If I would have stayed with her, her life would have been pretty much complete since she already got everything else a Chinese women wants(Gucci handbags, houses, cars). Me ocasinally whoring around probably wouldn’t have bothered her. If I would have fake-married her, I could have gotten her to Canada somehow where she wants to live with the rest of her family(she somehow cant get there, since they are afraid she wont leave, which is a valid concern). I left to Chengdu. I never loved here but still feel a little guilty for leaving. Daniela(Funnycatgirl) was great. I meet her after I already decided to move to Chengdu. She had a lot of what I like in a girl. She probably would have become my girlfriend. I was sad when I left her and Jinan. I am afraid of longterm relationships now. If you wont marry her there will be disappointment and the feeling that you couldn’t ultimatively give her what she wanted. Have you guys also the feeling that our abundance with women can be negative to one individual that we like? I am not here to make the life of women worse and I usually don’t, but I feel guilty. Especially for my ex. Don’t know if anybody has similar thoughts.

Got in touch with Danny instantly when I arrived here in mid September. He helped finding an apartment within a few days. I was really desperate to get one since I live 1,5h outside of the inner city right now. Going out was kinda frustrating but also somehow what I expected. Even though I am in a new environment I still have massive AA. There is a huge amount of work that I have to do. We already did a lot game. I was out here nearly everyday since I arrived for either day- or nightgame. What I think what my problem is: I am not willing to take the pain that is associated with a possible rejection. Next problem: Rejections are much more likely with hotter girls, so if I approach it is often not the girls that I actually want. Working on it, even though there is no real progressive line since my bootcamp which was nearly one year ago. Might be because Jinan didn’t give me the right tools for that. But it gave me a lot other good things which I had to give up or have to rebuild now: a job that I liked, good money and some savings, a hand full of available regs and girls in the pipeline, a suga mama, a girl that I really liked (funnycatgirl). I am basicially starting over again and I am totally broke. I had to wait in Germany for my Visa, had to rebook my flight and paid of a little bit of debt back home. So, I went from owning more money that I ever had to barely being able to rent an apartment. I don’t know, but life was good back then. Hope everything was worth it and it is going to be more awesome in the near future. Also living in Chengdu seems super inconvenient to me. Difficult to find a didi nearby, not a lot of available taxis, has a metro but its stacked with people, my school doesn’t set up things for me, have to do everything by myself, you get no special treatment because nobody cares that you are a foreigner… I disagree with first tier cities being more convenient. If you speak basic Chinese that’s just not the case, only if convenience means eating pizza and hamburger every other day for you, then yeah…you might have a point. Overall, I am not very happy with my situation that’s why I need CHANGE. Next step is to search for a new apartment since the area Danny and me lived in is too loud for me due to 24h a day construction working. I am searching for something as central as possible so there is as little resistance as possible for going out. That’s the next step. And going out daily but that’s what I am already doing.

Bootcamp, Shanghai Day 1 Nightgame After getting to know each other, Kane decided to take me a popular nightclub in Shanghai (Liberion or sth.) . After we entered, I quickly noticed why the club is that popular: Tons of pretty and well-dressed Chinese Girls and a good amount of better-looking foreign girls also. What I noticed on the other hand was that there were also plenty of foreign guys, also handsome ones…probably more than in hole Jinan(that is where I live). “More competition” is what I thought. Kane made me approach a set on the fairly quickly. Two girls, both cute, one a little cuter(HB8). I was surprised how well it went. Reactions were quite good. Opened with the “Can you speak Chinese?” Opener, which is quite hilarious IMO. Used that one the whole night. After the approach I quickly went for KINO because Kane told me so. I was also surprised how much KINO I was somehow “allowed” to do. Girls don’t really seem to mind getting touched. Mind-Blown!!! Second set were 2 HB7s also at the bar. Brought Kane in set to isolate the other girl. My girl was super receptive to the KINO I did. She really liked everything I did and said. One obstacle was a guy constantly trying to talk to her and constantly buying her drinks. I thought he was just some random dude trying to steal the girl. I was constantly ignoring him and did not bought into his frame. Later on she told me he was her working colleague. She did not told me when I asked who she is here with. I should have made sure she is really only here with that one female friend. After about half an hour that whole group went to another club. Kane and me stayed. Third set went really good from the start to the beginning. Girl was into me. Kane entertained the ugly one and I had an fairly easy one with her. Fourth set was quite scary. Really hot girls on a table (solid HB8s). I approached one and was talking to her but was not very consistent with my KINO. Also a group of people came along and separated us while the conversation. After that I lost my frame and got blown out. Inconsistent KINO and asking Kane too many questions in between the set did not help. Fifth set was quite boring. She was not very talkative(HB6) also being near the loudpeakers did not help with the communication. Went outta set after ten minutes. Sixth set was a girl(HB7) by herself that was by herself. Danced a little right away. After about ten minutes I tried to pull her. Said we are going to eat something, at the exit she told me she was not hungry and has to wait for her friends. After that I got back in set with the third girl. Got a make out and tried to pull her too, but she also wanted to stay with her friends. Had only one blowout over the whole night. Crazy hot girl surrounded by some guys and her friends. Fair enough! I was overall amazed by the amount of girls that liked me and were attracted to me. Really gorgeous women liked me and I was able to amuse them and having a great time with them. Day 2 Daygame Could barely sleep that night. Had cold sweat all night, had to change my pyijama several times. Really felt my brain rewiring. Me and Kane met the next day at 2pm. After my first meal of the day we went to a University for the first Daygame Session. I really struggle with Daygame, I never did it by myself before. Kane approached the first set. And I did the same after that, approached several sets. Was really scary shit , even though the girls were not as hot as the night before. I tried to implement Kane’s procedure for Daygame: Open- Where is a coffe nearby? BT Spike- A Joke like “Can you speak Chinese? You don’t look Chinese!” HQ- What she is up to today… Q- Compliment, I have to find out what I like about her and emphasize on telling her PIE- Screening for relevant info, if I remember correctly… Seed- Get a cool idea for a date in her head (cat coffee??) TB- She has to know when you will meet her again and where After several sets we went to the mall, while I was already burned out. I approached one set at the mall which did not went to well. Kane let me approach one or two more but it did not lead to anything. I was just really, really tired. After that we debriefed before I went back to the hotel for two hours of sleep that I really needed. Day 2 Nightgame Kane picked me up at 11:30pm. We went to a place called Zapata, loaded with foreigners. There is nothing comparable back in Jinan. In that place I met the others who took the bootcamp before me. Super interesting to meet you guys, a somehow surreal experience. I was super stifled and nervous, I am normally cooler than I was back then… I really felt the last 24 hours exhausting me. We went into the club area of that Zapata place. Kane let me approach the first cute girl we spotted(HB6-7). She responded like we would already know each other and wanted to dance immediately. She was obviously pretty drunk. We danced liked forever because she wanted to. Kane always wanted me to speak to her, she had no interest whatsoever in a conversation. She just wanted to dance like a maniac and she did. I got pretty bored of that whole thing after a while and I suggested that we might wanna go and drink something. She noticed that she was very thirsty and we had a water at a table outside. I talked to her, checked logistics and the overall situation. Tried to pull but couldn’t leave her sister that she was there with. Got her Wechat later on and left with the other guys to another club which was unfortunately closed because of the 19th Chinese Congress of the Communist Party. I approached some sets in front of the club but most people were leaving. Kane wanted me to approach a group of crazy hot girls but couldn’t do it. He did it and the result was that that the hottest girl was GBC(German Born Chinese), so I was able to speak German to her which was quite fun. Crazy hot girl(rock solid HB9) . Tried to get her Wechat but the QR-Scanner somehow didn’t work, they left the set then. Kane wanted me to reapproach to get her contact, there was another guy in set so I hesitated, but in the end just did. That guy left the set when he saw me, maybe somehow thought those were “my” girls. Got her Wechat after that they went off in a taxi. Kane and me also took one home since all clubs were closed. I learned a lot from that I night even though I am not able to execute with a those really hot girls right now. I also learned a lot about how other guys react to your frame when you with a girl. At night game it is a lot of frame battling. Sometimes even with your girl if she is drunk and just wants to dance. But usually with other that guys that are also talking to the girls. It went quite well for me that night but other guys can be a huge pain. Especially when they are drunk and semi-aggressive. Happy haven’t had to deal with that this night. Day 3 Daygame I was just tired that day. Super stifled and anxious due to the lack of sleep and recovery. Sleep was not really possible since my brain was rewiring and having the strangest thoughts all night. Kane and me met at 2pm. I couldn’t even ask for directions that’s how nervous I was. Took me forever to approach my first set asking for Starbucks. After a few warm-up sets I high-fived a girl (HB6,5) on the street. I got in that set with Kane. That girl was travelling by herself and had some time, so I went on a coffee date with her. Was nice but the conversation was too serious to establish any kind of KINO. Girl was attracted, normal coffee date I would say. After that date Kane and me were seeing a really hot girl(HB8) lost and asking a security guard for directions. It took me like five minutes to go up to that girl and approach her. As I did it I noticed from second one that she actually liked me, I really would not have thought that. She was always standing super close to me as I was talking. She wanted to go out with me that evening and was wondering as I told her that I will go back to Jinan in one hour. This was one of my favorite sets ever. Overcame my fear and it went far better than expected. After that I had to leave Shanghai at 7pm since that was the last train going to Jinan. This was after all an amazing experience for me. I learned tons of new stuff. Especially how KINO works and that this is actually doable. I wanna thank Kain for that and I hope that I can improve further. One concern I have is that I live in Jinan right now. Jinan is way worse for game than Shanghai. They are no good places to go for game. Only Chinese clubs where all girls are on tables and smaller places with mainly African students. Nearly no sets of just two or three girls, nearly always big groups on tables and you see the people at the same places again and again. Also daygame is not the same. I fortunenatly live near a place where all the girls go to buy their fake LVs and Guccis, get their nails, make up and extensions done. So, there is a lot of potential. Other than that Jinan isn’t that great, mainly because all pretty girls are with dudes here!!! All you see is young couples. This place is way more family-oriented and traditional, so I have to move to a bigger place next year for sure! My final take on this: I think a big part of getting really good at this is how much emotional drama you can take. My brain gives me a lot of this with every approach. There is something inside me that doesn’t wanna change. Pick Up is punching through that wall, over and over again. I gave up on Pick Up after my first Bootcamp with another company back in Germany. I gave it another try here in China and Kane helped me to get back into this. I was approaching everyday since my bootcamp. I am a fairly busy guy and I have to manage my time more carefully now that I also want to learn this. I hope it pays off and I will grow with my results. It’s my pleasure being a part of this.