Island Boy

Good field report. Nice sharing a boot camp with you. And 4 new girls last week? Apparently you've solved some of your logistical problems. Happy to hear that.

I just completed a boot camp in Seoul. It was an enlightening experience; I sort of feel like Neo in the Matrix when he chooses the red pill. I’m at the beginning of a new reality--as long as I have the drive to make it happen. In no particular order, here’s some of what I learned: Women act very different depending on the context. In a coffee shop, they are easy to open. On the street, they are harder. In a night club, they act like a school of fish scurrying away from a swordfish. But despite varying levels of defensiveness, women want to be caught. And they want to be socially “inappropriate”. Consider, for example, movies like Titanic and The Notebook. The key is to create situations that let them be as naughty as you want. Figuring out how to make that happen is the fun part. But it’s not without its difficulties. For example, I learned early on that cold pickup is a very different animal than the standard approach of talking to people associated with your social circle. Initial reactions—even when warm—are much subtler. But, really, what matters is that the girl is not leaving. And, even then, plowing can often turn those situations good too. I missed the boat on this, especially during the first half of the boot camp. I often messed up interpreting initial reactions. I expected a certain level of warmth. But my expectation was unreasonably high. So, I would interpret a girl as being cold even though she was actually excited to talk to me. This misinterpretation didn’t cause me to unnecessarily eject from too many sets, but it definitely will cause me to waste opportunities if I don’t re-calibrate my expectations. One way to help with improving reactions is to work on my fashion. The guys dressed up a lot more than me. I went the casual route. Apparently formal is better. But, in reality, during this early stage, what is important is to create the time for the girl to get to know you because when you approach, you are just a random guy. Of course, they are going to be cautious at the start. It takes time for her to learn why you’re the kind of guy she should be interested in. Creating that time and emotion is on us, not her. Doing that was a little tough for me because I’m introverted. I don’t naturally talk and talk. So, I did best in sets where the girl would help early on (no surprise). But, over time, I got better at keeping a one-sided conversation going by asking questions and then riffing for awhile on each response. As I progress though, I need to make more statements and ask less questions early on because it will better equip me to plow through girls who could be had but who don’t help me early in the process. Another thing that struck me as surprising is how open to kino girls are, especially at night. I definitely need to touch more, and to press further faster. I need to hug, to hold hands, to grasp hips. I need to spend more time whispering into their ear. In short, I need to close the distance early and often. I don’t escalate nearly fast enough. Finally, I like logic and math, so it was great to hear from other guys about their success rates at each stage of the process. It gives me a better guide for what to expect. That sets me up for success because it has begun to prepare me for the cruel reality that many girls won’t go for me—no matter how awesome I might be. But, as a smart man told me, wading through those rejections is a price well worth paying for the successes that come along the way. I look forward to this being the first of many field reports.