Queri

Bootcamp was great! Definitely a life-changing experience. How I think and how I act changed this past weekend. Hmm...since i couldn't focus at work, i wrote this. However, not everything is in full sentences. sorry about that. and i probably forgot something important. friday night @pure don't remember all the sets...but here's some that i can remember. somehow i did a many group sets that night. first one was mixed 5-set who was there to party (if i remember correctly, they were celebrating their graduation). I don't even remembered how I opened. I prolly just went in, say "hey" to the guy. introduced KaRyu (i think) to handle the obstacle while moving to the seat beside my target. another obstacle showed up and karyu handled both guys at once. it was my first time kino'ing a girl, and i was uneasy with it. I am not sure what triggered the set to end, but from what I could gather, someone in the group (who weren't inside the cave) was leaving and then everyone had to say goodbye. takoyaki girl set: (my first bounce! unexpected too) after locking in by the bar counter, went into this two-set. I don't remember if i had to talk to her energetic friend who likes black guys also but I think karyu handled the obstacle. using the takoyaki opener at 2am, i asked where's a good place to eat takoyaki around here that is still open. and followed up with, are you hungry. surprisingly she's hungry too, and took me to find takoyaki in amemura. after telling her friend we'll be back in 20, we headed out. hmm now thinking about it, I should have done more kino on her while we were outside, to warm her up. But instead of that, I did a lot of qualifying on the way to and back from the takoyaki place. (hmm thinking about it now, she was also qualifying me too when we were outside.) And since I had no clue what I was supposed to do, I just went back to the club afterwards. We met up with her friend, who was now with a huge black guy. Awkward silence (for me). Not knowing what i should do next, I ejected from the set to find RedpoleQ. i should have locked in and isolated her again and continued the sarge. Heard from karyu that she was looking for me later in the night. Should have time-bridged her so I can see her again. One thing i realized with the language barrier is that, if the girl doesn't speak much english, what you say doesn't really matter since they prolly won't fully understand it. Even if they're only slightly interested in you, it seems that they'll still be somewhat interested in what you're saying if they don't have anything else to do. english girl: didn't remember her name, but I started this two set, and her friend left after a while. RedpoleQ kept telling me to kino her in front of the girl's face. The girl speaks fairly fluent english so she kept asking me why he's saying such things...i felt really weird and hesitated a lot in my kino. Not sure how exactly it ended. english girl number 2: similar to english girl number one. I got better on the approach by locking in first and then starting the open. but it was similar to the first english girl although i had my arm around her back and didn't feel unconfortable doing so. korean group set: I started this girl who was standing there alone. Turns out she is a korean in japan studying japanese and turns out she was part of this big group of koreans. Lucky we found that out early. Everyone joined in on the group. After joining the group I switched girls and isolated her to the side. Communication was a big problem. and the girls surprisingly gave us chocolate from korea. I am not sure what happened afterwards or how it ended. hostess women: two-set. don't remember what happened other than her being a good cook and a hostess. mixed 3-set: didn't realize this girl dancing alone was part of a mixed 3-set. approached and got no response and she moved towards the other two in the set. cave girl: first time i got reverse kino'ed. RedpoleQ actually started this set and i started talking one of the girls. No fancy opener or anything, I think I just asked why she's sitting on the side of the dance floor and not dancing. Then somehow we all went into the cave afterwards. And I don't know why, but I was actually comfortable with kino'ing this girl. (hmmm...i wonder why...) Later in the set, RedpoleQ actually demo'ed how to k-close a girl. I hesitated a lot, and it took many prompts to actually try. I failed, but it seems like it was more like a playful "no" than an actual "no". (Maybe that's why RedpoleQ suggested I try k-closing in the first place). I set up a time-bridge with her (with no meeting location). i only mail-closed her before we left for debriefing. Hmm I didn't show up on the time bridge though. email doesn't work. and a lot of missed sets...due to hesitation or not fast enough actions when the sets walk by. Also, had trouble putting a smile on my face until someone tells me to smile...and i didn't really express myself much. i realized if i don't express myself, I will just be taking everything in and not giving others a chance to know me. Somehow I had a headache after waking up the next day... daygame 1: after a lot of hesitation and a lot of arm breaking threats from redpoleQ... fashion magazine girl: after a lot of hesitation...opened by asking what's a good magazine for guy fashion. As I did not get off the opener, she just showed me the men's section and she walked away. korean girl: girl reading photo magazine. Approached and asked what's a good photo magazine. she was actually a fairly interesting girl. even though she is actually pretty interesting my responses to her responses weren't showing much interest at all. I don't think I even smiled. (my bad). RedpoleQ stepped in after a while and we were actually in the set for a fairly long time, much longer than what I had expected when I first started the set. then i started to shut myself in and trying to be my old self...I just didn't want to open any sets during the day... after some motivation talk from RedpoleQ (thanks man), about how i wanted to change and was changing, and if i don't go for it i will just waste my money, my time, as well as everyone elses' time. I might fail even if i try, but by staying there, i definitely will stay at the same place. thanks to grizzlyhavoc and his female friend for helping me open my eyes. just graduated from high school girl: this 2-set was actually started by RedpoleQ. he said hi to one of them when she passed by (i didn't even realize this until he told me afterwards). Then he waved the second friend over from their table when the second friend was alone. He demoed what I should be doing in terms of kino'ing. Again he showed what opening your eyes and seeing better can do by noticing that his target had a scar on her wrist from a previous operation and made a joke about it. Allusion stepped in after a while to help me keep the set engaged. again had problems showing interest and responding with "okay"s and such. but after this set, I felt much more comfortable with daygame. night 2 @onziem: started out with a two-set. I don't even remember what the girl looked like or what we talked about. i just remembered isolating her and bouncing her to the bar. actually I did many sets that night, but I don't even remember how they look like. girls who studied law: -i was actually in this set for a while. Had fairly good kino on her and bounced her to the bar and back to get a drink. but I did not number close and did not time-bridge. don't remember how it ended. many mixed sets with guys (man...the guys at onziem...are much more alpha than guys at pure). i learned the importance of amok'ing the guys (while not get amok'ed) in a mixed set while kino'ing the girls to keep them interested, since i amoked guys but the girls felt left out and left. (one of the guys from that group actually said sorry to me later when he walked by me... not sure what for though) Oh yeah, sorry SpecialK, about being too slow in setting up the time-bridge... many missed sets due to hesistation and i had problem opening my own sets. it seems that i can't choose which set open. and again, not smiling enough. day set 2: opened 2 girls in starbucks asking for a good place for mens clothes in hep5 -although I didn't progress far, just starting to talk with the girls made me more comfortable with starting other sets that day -also it was good to ask instead of making guesses. I initially thought the girls were like 14 (well they looked 14 to me). but redpoleQ made me go approach them a second time and ask them how old they are. turns out they were 19. i guess i shouldn't make assumptions and just go find out. kindergarten teachers: this set took most of the day. maybe 2 hrs or so? Challenger started the set asking for a place to buy a tie. after a while he brought me in and I was talking to the two obstacles. after a while of qualification, we attempted to bounce by helping Challenger to find a tie. GrizzlyHavoc came in during the bounce. The girls were actually really serious in helping Challenger and we did like a 1hr shopping tour of umeda, by going to 4 different places. Since the hunt for the tie was actually pretty hard, Grizzly actually suggested that we should go for ice cream instead, but the girls really concerned in getting Challenger a tie. And also, it felt like we could have time-bridged and number closed much much earlier, during one of the transitions to the next store. have a day2 with one of the girls. in a separate FR. nara university students: started the set with takoyaki opener. the sarge turned weird when my target somehow brought up her having a bf. then i stupidly asked where her bf lived, followed by where the obstacle's bf lived (oops). it just went downhill from there and the girls started packing their stuff. before they left though, i asked when the girl will come to my station, and to let me know when she does. she gave me this weird look...and then the two girls left. maybe-already married girl: Challenger started this set, and i joined in afterwards. I am not sure what he opened with, but i entered th set later. wasn't comfortable with ouvert kino...again. we secured a time-bridge and number closed, however, our time-bridge is together...not sure if challenger plans to go to day2 or not. and that's all i could remember for now. thank you (in order of appearance during the weekend) RedpoleQ, GrizzlyHavoc, Allusion, Karyu, SpecialK, Kid44, and Emma!