Majesty Posted August 11, 2015 Share Posted August 11, 2015 Today I went on a surprise date with a girl after she asked me out on kakaotalk. I was really surprised that she made the first move since she is a chick and im the gentleman 1. SMOOTHIE- After conducting the logistics through kakaotalk we decided to meet up for smoothies near my place. She agreed to come to the station closest to my house and we went for our shakes. When we got to the store, we started general conversations about vacations, plans for the upcoming days and her busy work schedule. She discussed with me that she just came back from the beach with her friends the day before she decided to meet with me... I felt honored! I tried to kino by doing basic stuff (i.e. she was wearing a ring on her finger and I said.. let me see it and i started touching her hand/finger. I then proceeded to the earrings and then started to slowly touch the back of her ear). Afterwards we took a selfie of ourselves with our slushies in our hand. Afterwards I told her that I wanted to go for a walk. 2. THE WALK/MY HOUSE- after walking her through sindang.. i bounced her to my house. it was around 8:00 pm. I sat next to her on the couch. At first she placed her bag in between us. After noticing that it was in the way, i picked up her bag and talked about it (i.e. wow you must really like leather bags... i see that this leather is pretty nice). When I got the bag out of the way I scooted in next to her leg touching my leg. I then proceeded to tell her about my hero story of how I use to be such a looser when it came to academics and how I overcame it. Afterwards I started to touch her inner thigh and kissed the back of her ear. The problem was that after doing so she snapped back and said that it felt too soon. When that happened in my mind i was like OH SHIT!! IM SO FUCKED! I also noticed that she didn't display a huge range of emotions like the other girls did when I told them the same story. Her face looked almost like she acknowledged my story but it didn't leave her weeping to the point where she would say that I am such an awesome person. I was like...ok we shouldn't and then changed the thread by saying lets go to the park to get the awkwardness out of the way. 3. THE PARK- At the park nothing happened. All we did was observe what was going on and made small comments about them (i.e. a old lady power walking... she must be working out really hard). But we did have a good laugh at some of the jokes we made. Afterwards I tried to seed the next date by saying that I really like chicken and beer and you should come. She said yeah I think that would be nice and that was basically the end of the story. We separated back at the subway station and she gave me a friendly kiss on the cheek. From my observations... I think nerdy girls are so much harder than playgirls. I wonder if the female psychology is different than those of the other girls? My assumptions are 1. she probably is still a virgin or 2. she hasnt dated too many boys because of her shy demeanor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Count Stackula Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 What was the conversation.. what did you say right before you escalated the kino? Maybe the kino was incongruent to the situation. You need to get her temperature up first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedpoleQ Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 I was like...ok we shouldn't and then changed the thread by saying lets go to the park to get the awkwardness out of the way. You gave up way too easily. She was at your house, and she shut down one attempt at sexcalation. Seems to me that YOU felt more awkward than she did and YOU wanted to move away from the situation as quickly as possible. I fully understand, that this isn't what you're used to and we've all been there. But this is the same as ejecting from a set too quickly because you don't know what to do next or how to handle the particular situation. My assumptions are 1. she probably is still a virgin or 2. she hasnt dated too many boys because of her shy demeanor. So, instead of heading to the park (which I think is actually a good move, but just pulled out too early in this case) is to start a discussion that would get you some answers to these questions. Assumptions are very dangerous. Girls you think are shy can be really sexual and vice-versa. They may be shy BECAUSE they KNOW how sexual they are. In any case, more dialogue. Did you find out anything about her or were you just talking about yourself? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Majesty Posted August 12, 2015 Author Share Posted August 12, 2015 @Count Stackula right before I started the escalation process of kinoing her... the conversation was about my failure as a student and not graduating from middle school to working very hard to get my grades up which resulted in graduating from high school and going to college. @Redpole 1. Yeah maybe I gave up too easily. The second strike in the coffen was that she also had her bag between me and her. I think she put it there on purpose to send me a signal that "its not happening" I could be wrong. What would you do if you were in my situation to build the attraction and make have another run for the attempt? 2. I think I should have asked her questions like why dont you want to do it? I was going to ask her but then i felt that I could be coming off as pretty needy and it could further damage the situation. However, maybe that would have been the right move. I think my biggest problem is wording things to get an answer without sounding creepy (i.e. lets go on a date.... lets hangout and get lunch... basically the same meaning resulting in the same thing... but the 2nd option is more effective for day 2s and less creepy). How would you have started a discussion that would help unveil some answers? If you have any examples that makes it sound ok without coming off too creepy let me know. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedpoleQ Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Girls usually put obstacles up to control the sexcalation. Good you noticed the bag and that it was in the way, but that doesn't mean she did it consciously. All you can do is remove the obstacle which you did. My assumptions are 1. she probably is still a virgin or 2. she hasnt dated too many boys because of her shy demeanor. So...why don't you just ask these two questions? Don't focus on why and if she's going to have sex with you, focus on finding out how she is about sex. Also, check this thread: http://www.asiandatingmonthly.com/reloaded/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=5408 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.