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You've come into this at a pretty good place in terms of your situation and openness to learning, so teaching you so far has been pretty easy as you've picked up whatever i've given you and applied it well. Thanks . Yeah you've definitely got the right idea, most girls just want guys to be capable enough at Game/life that they can be together, feel safe and happy. One of the greatest things about this experience is looking back at how things were a month or two before and seeing the changes and differences in mindset. Yeah I don't think there is much we are teaching that is really outside the 'normal' behavior of what men do with women, it's just that we've taken 100 good bits and pieces from literally thousands of peoples infield experiences and condensed them into structured lessons. This is actually also why the art of seduction is fascinating, especially when you have reference experience to compare it to. Persistence is really huge, if you remember what I told you about framing, someone is gonna hold the dominant frame, it might as well be you. Conversation - yeah, as we've discussed, it's really just about a balance of pressure and emotiveness, the actual content is secondary. Yeah it's lots of minor fixing that create the great experience for the girl. I'm glad you got so much from the first night even though I get that it wasn't your preferred venue or girls. It's difficult doing it in a mall compared to a house party of club because of the different expectations in play, which is directly related to the strength of your frame. You didn't get blown out by every set, it's just that it was more than the night before . I got blown out by my first 4 sets on the first day game due to them all having boyfriends and one two set that was wearing high heels who just ran away. Yeah I think we can figure out a way for you to find approximately where your preferred demographic will be from here on. As i mentioned before, the emotiveness is really the key, rather than how high brow or low brow the content is. I appreciate your perspective of primarily practicing the skill as that made my job of teaching you easier. You did a great job. Le Baron is awesome. This 'confidence' feeling will get better and better as you practice more. There are plenty of other such 'psychological tests' and routines online that you could also try out. I was using a non sexual version of strawberry fields for a few months before I did my bootcamp, so it was easy to use, It's basically always been a winner. It's good to hear that the stack was useful, some people get stuck with doing 'random stuff' which isn't very good, so it seems like the stack served it's purpose. 'Tricks' work because girls hate being bored and the tricks make things fun, they're merely a useful tool to learn how to be fun. Yeah it's really important to internalize the structure, so practice practice practice. With a bit of luck you will get that girl out again and make things happen. Xintiandi is fantastic. YES. Yeah the 'connection' part of the story really really hits home with girls because this is what they are doing with each other a lot of the time and its something that a lot of guys really don't do well. Yep! Keep up that improv and using the exercises we went over and it will become pretty normal pretty fast. Glad to hear it! It was a real pleasure working with you and i'm looking forward to seeing you before/during the summit!

It was also about teaching you to understand how 'Game' works and that if you demonstrate the right things about girls you will get good responses and can progress things (that's why we had you guys bt spiking and kinoing a lot) The purpose of the first night was getting you guys to be able to begin interactions properly and start controlling direction that you wanted the interaction to go in. So....I am a little confused: You liked the club, you were talking to a young korean girl and she let you touch her and you got bored? why/how did you become bored? Also the 'ill be moving around and ill see her later' as 'western game tactics because i didnt wanna seem like a beta cuck' - what do you mean? That staying near her when you're bored and leaving your friend there by himself would be a beta move? I don't really understand your thinking here, so please explain it more clearly. You're supposed to stay in the set because you're a wingman, if you didn't open then your primary objective is to assist the other person in winging and then if things aren't going well and you think the girl may pop or something else is occuring, you've gotta tell your wingman the situation, otherwise he won't know what to do and will be surprised if you just leave as he will then have to start dealing with the other girl as well. Mainly you've just gotta get used to the 'common problems' in the club and you can learn to predict a lot of these things, so then they're no longer problems. You don't necessarily need to move them around the club a lot, you just need to progress the interaction by doing different things, which you were given a limited amount to do on the first night. As a general thing if you're out clubbing: Generally from the bar to the dance floor, dance floor to the bar, bar to the door outside, door outside to the convenience store/restaurant near ur place (or just to ur place depending) and then to ur place. This was the girl right next to the bar when i was standing next to you? What do you mean substance and realness? In the beginning of doing pick up when you're all nervous and unsure, it's difficult to really express a lot about yourself because you're not sure which way is right or wrong. Overall it sounds like you did a good job, so, great! It should be 'things i did well' 'things i will do better' So did you open, bt spike, hook question (what are you doing right today?) qualify, pie? You haven't really listed here what you said and did. With the osaka girl - basically she wasn't buying what you were selling. If you get cold reactions, bt spike them more and make fun of them being cold in a playful manner and you can sometimes turn it around. Why didn't you approach the girls who were sitting down that you said you actually wanted to talk to? The spotlight effect is all in your head, people care far more about what they themselves are doing and will only generally watch you in passing curiosity. What do you mean you got 'shat on'? I am really confused by this because I didn't see anyone yelling at you or abusing you. We are there to help remind you of things you should be doing and giving you advice about how to do particular things better, that is our priority above saying stuff to make you feel better. You're supposed to feel better by improving your game and recognizing where you've done a good job, we also try to point these things out to students too. So what do you think you have improved on in terms of day game since the bootcamp? Thanks for the discount. Why do you think the girl refused to speak English? It sounds like you were doing a good job and needed your wing to communicate with you more effectively, so remember this in the future if you keep running into this prob. So...what did you learn from the 2nd night of night game? Great! Have you been using your story often since the bootcamp? Why didn't you talk to more girls that you liked? Typically the last day of the bootcamp you can approach independently, so that's why im asking. Sounds like you quite liked the girl, did you follow up with her? Again i'm a little confused why us giving you feedback makes you unhappy? Typically we aren't ever really angry or confrontational, just direct. Our talking was interrupting you some how? You mean the girls were watching us because of that? or what? I've messaged you a few times to get you to write your BC field report up, and it's not for my benefit, but actually for yours. The forum has lots of great tried and tested content that you can use to up your game, start by checking that link I sent that's titled 'so you've just finished your bootcamp.....' I highly suggest you really prioritise your self improvement and learning as much as possible so that this time in 2019 you can look back and be happier and more successful. Kane

The club is called Le Baron, i've taken everyone whose done a BC there since, all love it. It went well because you did well. Girls LIKE being touched, especially by well dressed German Dudes who are into FA. lol. Lol it's kinda funny that you didn't pay him any heed but it still worked out, that means you had gooooood levels of attraction from her. I always get stuck with the ugly one when winging for students :< #InstructorProblems Yeah the questions break the pace of the set. Kino kino kino. I think you'll rarely get blown out if you just run your game consistently and are out with people who make you feel good about game. You did a good job on powering through day game, i'm proud of you. One issue in particular you have with Day game is that you're focused on how it's going to affect you or reflect on you, try instead just giving yourself the goal of trying to make others happy when you approach them, i.e try to get nothing from them other than making them smile. You think too seriously of things that should be merely light hearted fun. “Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world” Miyamoto Musashi You find day game hard, sure, everyone has to start somewhere, so start where you can and build from there. Yeah this night was a bit meh compared to the first. I still remember this German speaking Chinese girl, she was super super good. Have you been hitting her up at all? . The bootcamp is an extremely intense experience for most people because they are having a rush of experiences they normally wouldn't have, so i'm not surprised you found it mentally taxing. Essentially your ego is taking more of a beating than it's used to and you're dealing with a lot more pressure than you're used ot. Lol girls liking you, no shock there, I think most girls will be very happy to have you approach them regardless of what you say. After that I had to leave Shanghai at 7pm since that was the last train going to Jinan. I'm glad to help dude, I just want you to be happy and get the necessarily life experience so you can live the life you really want. I think you're currently on track to move to either Taipei or Chengdu, which will be great! Looking forward to that and the improvements it brings you. I'm going to leave you with another Miyamoto Musashi quote.

Yeaaaaaaah! Here. We. Go! It was super fun teaching you and the other 3 guys, especially since you were all so different. I'm curious, why hadnt you gone approaching in clubs before? It's pretty funny how competition inspires you, if it works, it works. The 'faking energy' thing is fine to do, training wheels and all that, over time though you want to cause good emotions in the girl by BT spiking her i.e YOU saying things YOU think are funny that she likely will too. Kino is everyone's biggest weakness. In all my years I think i've only seen one or two people who already did enough kino or came close to 'enough'. guys yelling 'kino, touch the girl touch the girl' was me. , so was the putting your hand around the girls waist. Yep, the structure is designed the way it is for good reasons, it's originally based on mystery method, which is the GENESIS of all pick up. Starbucks is fantastic, if you keep practicing you can do also stuff like run non verbal game through windows and number close girls without even having to actually speak to them , it's pretty memorable. Good job on approaching. Getting out gamed by other guys can happen, always remember it and do better next time. Holding attention usually comes down to Kino and BT Spikes. Embarrassments happen, so long as you've improving it's fine, RPQ has plenty of embarrassing stories about me and my silliness that he can share with you . Essentially you've gotta be the one leading the interaction, the leader in a group doesn't look to how other people are emotionally reacting in a single moment to make decisions, he decides where he wants the group to go and takes them there while making adjustments on the way to help things work best for all. That negative voice in your head that tells you stuff is an enemy that needs to be overcome. I'm gonna quote a 16th century Ronin, as I think his words are particularly accurate here: "Determine that today you will overcome your self of the day before, tomorrow you will win over those of lesser skill, and later you will win over those of greater skill. Miyamoto Musashi" Although he may be referring to other people, I think you can also relate this to yourself, as the point is accurate. Theres a book that's titled 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' You don't need to read the book, the title is the whole point. You've understood that lesson. Another important one that you've got is that this is a TOOL you can use to improve your life in multiple areas. I'm really happy to hear that the bootcamp had such an affect on you, as it did on me. It was truly life changing and I hope you get as much from it as you can. Anything you need, just hit me up.

I thought I had already responded to this :S Lol yeah it was super funny how you found out about me. Game isn't just about 'getting girls' it's about improving how good you are at getting girls and your relationships with them, your social skills, your ability to influence people (because that's what we're really doing here). A lot of guys wanna get good at Game for the sake of Game, a lot more just wanna bang girls they don't really like, you're obviously the former rather than the latter. That feeling of not being able to pull the trigger and not knowing what to say really sucks, it's fantastic you took action to get past that i.e the bootcamp and all the effort you put in during the bootcamp. Yeah!!!!! No. More. Baby. Tiger. That girl in the black dress with the german broski's was so good . Yeah mad respect for sticking to the program. When we're in Korea, mention the 'daddy likes' thing to James and watch how excited he gets . Great. Yeah that was a lot of weirdo's during your bootcamp, i'm not sure why lol. What other openers have you been using since then? The Hand Of God is by far my favourite Pick Up Tech, it's gotten me into so many awesome situations. I've experienced a lot of crazy shit during bootcamps, having drinks spilled on me is fine , ask RPQ about the fat old woman in Beijing who wouldn't let me go, you'll get a good story and a laugh. How are you AA (approach anxiety levels) now? Have you gone clubbing since then? Yeah, essentially anything you want to be possible is possible, you just have to be the force of create and guide god's hand to unzip those tight jeans and rip off those lacy panties. You did a great job in both that high pressure approach and then while doing the story telling as well. Reading your report has been a great pleasure, as was teaching you. I'm happy to see the progress you've been making since then. I've gotten Jackson to start recording his set (he should post it in a day or two) metrics (opens and a basic result) and you may be interested in the same thing as you're big on numbers and data. Congrats on the bootcamp and thanks for all your hard work. Dive into reading the suggested books ASAP and you will see even more improvement.

Nov 22nd 2017

Yeah that first night was tough, you did well by pushing through. These girls interacted with us for around 5 minutes or so, it wasn't an ideal situation, but they did have nice boobs. The main lesson that should come from the night is that even at your worst, you can still get results. A lot of people make excuses about how they can't do x thing because of x reason, so remembering this can be good for noticing when you're rationalizing to yourself about whats possible etc etc. Also knowing when to push more and how much 'playerness' u should or shouldn't show. Is that girl you met on the couches with her employee still responding? That Chinese dude was a fkn mess :< A lot of guys will meet a girl they like in the club and then not want to keep approaching because they're afraid she will see and won't meet them again, although this can happen, it's silly to stop approaching for that reason and is very much a scarcity mindset, as you don't know if the girl will see you again and you likely don't wanna end up with a girl who is that insecure anyway. Showing you're interested in them and giving them ways to make the conversation with you easier really helps. If you regularly get girls refusing to give you compliance (wechat, kino, date, sex) and then voicing some player objections then try to do less attraction and more qualification/comfort. The way you understand yourself and the world better is by doing things you normally wouldn't, by at times being counter intuitive. Logistics is 50% of the game. His forum name is 'MadeYouLook'. 5 Realizations throughout Bootcamp The more you do Game, the more your standards will develop and surprised you will be, I have banged girls the pre Bootcamp Kane wouldn't have even talked to, it was surprising. Ya, again, try new things, have new experiences. Get really good at tricking yourself into thinking the circumstances are great or beneficial for you, as focusing on why something CANT happen, will just make sure it can't happen. For sure. Make sure you keep it up. 5 things to work on after bootcamp All of these are great. You definitely gotta keep going!

If you're being opened by girls, you're definitely waiting too long, as they're gonna be standing around waiting for u to open, you did a decent follow on, you should be more proactive though. You can always just open girls by telling them they look like they're from x country, they will correct you or say 'how did you know' Yeah, so again this is why you opening is better, most working girls will make it pretty clear from the get go, so you'll save time, in this case it's really hard to know. It's very likely she wasn't a working girl, as a working girl would have follow up with that dude when he approached her and tried to make some money. You did well but in the end were afraid to take the risk, which lead to you getting no tangible result, beyond the useful reference experience (which is good though). I think you just need to run game on the girls, ask what their job is, who they're with at the bar. Asking those two questions usually will figure it out as working girls will usually answer something weird about being at work now, who they're with - working girls are generally with other working girls, who give people wayyyyyyy more attention and compliance than you would normally expect. Another option is trying to move the girl to another venue - working girls are there to get ur money, so if ur trying to bounce them to other places, they will usually start asking you about money. Again, pls add the Things I did well Things I will do better Realizations Good job on writing these field reports - it's fantastic as I can give you more and more detailed feedback, the more detail you can provide the better. Keep up the good work!

You used a good situational opener. Whenever you're on public transport - ask as early as possible which stop she's getting off at, tell her which one ur getting off at. You did well in picking up with the English topic, you could have expanded on it like which university she studied at there, where else she travelled there, what did she like/dislike about it compared to China. You could have also used the discussion about foreign countries to bring up America and tell her some stuff about yourself. Yup - always ask it within the first 30 seconds. I wouldnt suggest telling girls you're get off at her stop as it will come across as pretty needy if you're following her to her stop and missing your own, generally i would just get off at my stop or lie and say that mine is one stop past hers. You should be adding: What I did well What i will do better Realizations

Actually you did private training, the format of which is different from the bootcamp, your enthusiasm is appreciated though. haha, yeah, I remember our first time meeting up and discussing this. Everyone progresses at somewhat different paces as everyone starts in different places, as long as you're practicing consistently, you're winning. Yeah basically when someone is uncomfortable, they're giving off signals that may make others uncomfortable, especially if you're assuming you're gonna get rejected. Yeah...people don't really care what others are doing most of the time, everyone's generally super focused on themselves. Random college girl - I remember this girl - dressed in a pink dress, she was nice. Yeah, girls usually find pick up to be interesting and don't freak out, unless they are crazy american feminazi's. Always find ur limit and then work to push it a little further, when u can. Body heat raise? I think you mean Buying Temperature Spike? Sounds like a quote from fight club . Ideally add: 5 Things I did will 5 Things I will do better 5 Realizations I had

Dude. Fucken AWESOME bootcamp FR. You covered a lot of really good points and really clearly displayed what you learnt and how you learnt it. That Negative Tightness Japanese girl - whats the current situation with her? You gotta keep going with her until you bang her, she was too hot. Ideally keep weekly or more FR's coming. I'll talk to u later this week on the skype/wechat call! Great stuff Kane

I'm still confused as to why I look like a drug dealer. I never thought that way about myself.

Yo Dude! I am in Shanghai and you should hit me up if you come here. Kane

Wassup, Here is the 'Selfie Opener' FR. Two parts: The FR The LR Here we go: Dali and I were doing day game at SOHO (the new 'ritzy' shopping center across from San Li Tun in Beijing) when i saw some girls using one of those 'selfie cameras' that Asians love to take selfies with. They were in some weird shop which was half cafe half hair dressing place. Whenever I see this, i use my go to opener, which is to just cruise up and take a selfie of myself while the girls are taking their selfie, so it becomes a selfie within a selfie. The responses is that girls laugh and then I continue the interaction, either via talking normally or..... As they were laughing at the 'selfie opener' I opened the text message section on my phone and started using that to communicate with the girl i liked thru the glass window, did the usual info exchange and compliments, then I told her we're gonna come in and join then, she nodded, we then cruised into the cafe thing. I sat next to my girl (the girl on the right hand side) and made constant really strong eye contact with her, she responded well and seemed to become very very attracted as she was responding well to kino (the finger nail polish question thing I always use) and started giving me 'opportunities' like when I talked about liking girls who cooked, she mentioned she could cook for me sometime. Started qualifying her based on those things and about where she was from (North of China obviously), talked to her about her experience with foreigners ect ect ect, she never mentioned having a bf or anything. Dali was running obstacle game on the other two, the 'covering her face girl' (who you can see put her hand on the window in the selfie I took) continued her 'I'm bitchy and unfriendly' theme for at least half the Sarge (I later found out that she didn't like my girl and was probably upset about not getting as much attention), the other girl and Dali got along reasonably well and she ended up ONS'ing Dali, that's another story for another time though. The Qualifications I did that I think really struck a cord were: You don't look like a normal Chinese girl - I like people who have a different look or image, you're extremely feminine - she was, it was fantastic. Turn's out she half Japanese half Chinese, doesn't usually tell people though cause the Chinese Japan tiff and all. I went into detail about why I like feminine girls and how I think women should be feminine and men should be masculine so we can balance each other and men can look after women ect ect. After about 20 mins: Eventually started running comfort and showing her pics of my dog and explaining that it's still in SH and I miss it and went back to the cooking topic i.e I like it when people cook for me as my mum always used to do it and it gives me a 'at home' feeling, she told me about her family and her pets (we had built a decent connection as we were exchanging info/emotions not just talking at each other) I set up a time bridge for about 4 to 6 days later to meet at San Li Tun again and eat some French Crepes (which is a great thing to do for a date at SLT), which leads to the LR, kissed her on the hand while keeping porno like eye contact ( i like doing this to build a bit of sexual tension while still holding the 'gentlemen' vibe as it makes Chinese girls more chill) Pic I took while performing the 'Selfie Opener' LR will come out within the next 48 hours, gotta check to see if I have any photos to add into it.

So....whats ur plan for the next month? Your field report didn't list specifically what you learn't or your major changes. Give us a clear idea of what you want to achieve within the next month or so, this is crucial because without goals, you are without direction.

Also you should offer more challenge, i dunno if this suits you in particular but if she says shes from X place or going to X place, you reply with ewwww gross, her age - 16, ewwww gross, and then follow it up with 'just kidding'. It's typical push pull. You generally open and then pull pull pull pull, whereas u need to add in some push. Another way to do so is if the girl says shes from X place and you're response is 'oh really? haha all girls from X place are sexual predators' and claim she's a rapist (said in a funny way), because this demonstrates 1. funnies, 2. sexuality 3. you're not going 'please like me please like me' Also you mentioned you negged her about her age, from what I read you didn't neg, you just teased about the age difference. a neg would be: You look really young, how old are you? I'm 16 Oh really......that's....cute....you must be into lots of cute kiddy stuff, thats...er...very..charming...did you have fairy bread at ur last bday party? Delivery: You say the words like you mean them so it SOUNDS like a compliment, but your facial expression/emotional output should show you're not really complimenting her, you're being patronizing.

"Blah blah I told her a few stories which raised her buying temperature a bit but although she was smiling and laughing didn't seem too invested in this interaction. Another weakness I noticed was that my teases were just me calling her young and myself being older and more mature. It was bad because it just destroyed a chance for connection and comfort. Sometimes I feel pressured to neg when the neg I used was anti effective Me "So tell me about something cool about yourself?" Her "hmm I hate this question I don't know how to respond." Me "Anything?? Cmon you seem like a cool down to earth girl you gotta something.." Her "ehhh... I'm just a very boring person." Me "ok.. So Netflix?" Her "haha no.. Blah blah blah"" Too much comfort 'nice' game and not enough attraction, you can't really 'add in' more attraction by your behavior because you trip yourself up in this way. I would say you need to hone in ur sub comms more and focus less on what you say, because what you say trips you up. Also you didn't sexualize.

1. Don't talk to girls ur not attracted to. 2. You're giving off signals to girls you're not into, so you're probably 'trying' too hard to be 'accepted' by them/people in general, I've reached such a high level of disregard for girls I don't like that I drill into them about their life and dig out all the bad points then spend most of the 'winging' period of the set criticizing them for having such a terrible life. it's fun. 3. Why did ur friend try to stop u from approaching? 4. Good stuff on banging her, keep up the good work.

Can we get a response to this?

Me too.. I don't like it either. Sometimes i wouldn't even use it on a new girl. Although i put it on, i cant feel anything, then i would take it off to bang. I do this because I usually do Day game, in my mind day game girls are more clean but yea, how can you tell for sure right. if its a girl from the night club, i definitely would put a condom on. How can you tell how slutty she is from the first 15 minutes? / the first few minutes in the interaction / from SNL, (day and night game girl) This is a very typical Asian guy frame, girls from the day time are not cleaner, as those same girls go to night clubs too. Most girls get STDs from fucking dudes who fuck a lot of hookers. It's not about the girl being slutty, its about finding girls who give you quick compliance and pulling the trigger, plus putting her in a situation where rejecting sex is difficult certianly helps.

Also i suggest you use the alumni section for posting further feed reports, it's further down the page when you've just logged in called 'field reports and lay reports'

1. I already told you - find girls who speak SOME English - it doesn't have to be very much, as the important thing is that they like you, if they like you, they will put in effort to communicate with you. 2. I told you to go to Universities and to use TanTan and other APPs : You already found out at universities there are girls who speak English and I assume most of the girls on Tantan who hit you up are probably speaking English to you. Other apps I suggest you try that will result in being knee deep in girls quickly are: Skout Badoo They both function in a very similar way to TanTan. The books - Buy them off amazon? I don't know how you were searching for the books but i went to yahoo and typed in 'the art of seduction pdf download' and both the first link and second link directly lead me to the book without any ads and had it available to download, directly. http://pdfsr.com/pdf/the-art-of-seduction http://vk.com/doc-39319205_153955620?dl=909dbacee141a27e71 the war of art: http://vk.com/doc2413557_31635438?hash=717727e9dd05999852&dl=28aabb49a7217e1962 http://ge.tt/6OQjQL71/v/0 If i can find these books on the internet within 2 minutes, there's no reason you can't. Busy/bf: If you run things properly, you won't get every girl giving you these excuses. If you run into some obstacles and get all negative and give up - you will never succeed at anything. I gave you a very specific process to follow and need you to follow it, I will clarify it again at the bottom of this report. This is a choice you are making. I originally told you that although you can get success in a smaller city, you would find life more enjoyable and easier in a larger city (i.e you would get paid more, your time would be more reasonable and there would be more 'westernized' girls) It's just a matter of time, effort and numbers - larger cities are easier. No one says you need to marry the girl - there are millions of girls (even right now) that are having sex outside marriage every minute in China. Smaller cities will have some 'traditional' girls, but i can also say that smaller cities have less foreigners - so the foreigner effect is stronger, which helps in attracting and closing girls. You are being way too negative about the language issue and using it as an excuse, this doesn't help you. Wait....? You do not wait, you see something you want, you make a plan to try and ensure you can get it and you take action to execute that plan. It's not always fun, changing your life, yourself, over coming your problems, facing your fears and pushing past your limitations is rarely fun. A brief example - I want to record a release a video series about pick up and sell it on the internet: I enjoy taking the video for the infield part, I completely hate doing the rest of it - writing the advertising, researching stuff, putting the video together, editing it and then dealing with all the logistical stuff behind that....but I want the result, so I make a good plan and get past the stuff I don't enjoy while keeping my eye on the prize. If girls are giving you those excuses its either you're looking at things too negatively or you're not attracting them properly. The question you should be asking is - how can i meet lots of new women every week and enjoy doing so? My advice: Universities - the social events in those universities Any other social events around town If you're really at a loss - Start an English corner and post it on your wechat, that makes you the leader of the group, all you need to do is organize stuff, you can make a bit of money from it or just make it free and meet a lot of new people every week, it's more enjoyable because everyone sees you as high value and will treat you as such, plus you get the be the king of the mountain in that group for meeting girls. Most girls that turn up will speak ok English, you can ask some of the girls you work with to help post advertisements. Fate.......It's not a Fate, it's all decisions and responsibility. The way of the superior man seemingly is a guide on how to treat women well and get along with them peacefully.....yeah...it's also a collection of mindsets for yourself, which is the more important part. If you want to get girls then you need to set the situation up to make that easy: 1. Get in contact with lots of girls 2. Display value that attracts them/actively avoid doing things which destroy your value - displaying value: being willing to spend money, having decent clothing and a decent place - doesn't have to be anything super amazing, but needs to be at a decent level, have stuff happening in your life which they can gain from by doing with you (bicycle riding being an example) Avoid destroying ur value: Neediness Being negative Showing low social IQ 3. Make the process of progressing the relationship as smooth as possible: I.e once you have the girls interest - meet her, get her more interested, get her to trust you, escalate things until you get to sexual contact. this may take one day, it may take 3, all depends on the situation, the girl and your actions. "Think of the most discouraging thing that you are currently carrying or the biggest project you can’t seem to tackle. Forget about how it happened, forget about how you got there, just look at the clock, and before that number changes, do one little thing to make it better. After you do, enjoy your moment of victory, and then do it again. In less than the time it takes you to blink, the past will burden you no more.” --Dan Pearce The puas in Beijing have that life because they went through the process. No one is going to talk down to you, people are not perfect but we are here to help, that also means there usually isn't much sugar coating. You're right, no one in honhot gives a shit what you do, you can sit in your apartment and complain and it won't make even one little bit of a difference to anyone there. So why don't you start giving a shit about yourself and take the following steps: 1. Approach at least 1 girl a day, write a report about it, every day - it doesn't have to be long 2. Contact 10 new girls via APPs every day 3. Date each girl to the exact same location doing the exact same thing; This may cancel out some of the flexibility and cut out some girls but at least you will get incredibly consistent practice at dating the girls and progressing things to sex. One of your major issues is that you lack consistency and think that you shouldn't be responsible for whatever situation you're in. As I have spent a pretty decent amount of time talking with you, I know you want to change, I know you have a lot of good qualities and are quite brave. So please take action in the right direction. Also watch this video If you don't have a vpn... http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNTYyMDAyNjQ4.html You can post daily reports here, you can also hit up the beijing boners group chat - people will be supportive, you can also wechat me, if i don't respond then pls message me again a few hours later, it's not intentional, i have 3000+ contacts so sometimes I do miss stuff.

Kane. The only thing that could be better about this is if you memorialized her titties in plastercast and sent them to me with a package of fun guy. You are the shit. My hero. And you convinced me to get a hostel every weekend. How's that for validation honky. 'She went to the shower' . . . I'm not really clear about the shower thing. Had she already decided to take a shower before your joke about the shower? Like maybe she was already dressed in room-to-shower clothes? The after-the-fact good girl qualifier is awesome. Were you qualifying her otherwise? I totally agree. Validation to the max . She was already planning on taking a shower i guess, she had to go back to her room to get the necessaries for a shower though. I probably did qualify her on other stuff but don't remember. I met up with her again after i came back to kunming from lijiang and we banged again. It was good. Kane

Your issues with the friend zone are because of the initial frames you set during your initial interactions by being too indirect and being afraid of kinoing girls. It's better to get blown out than to go home and masturbate over 'what could have been'. As the old saying goes ' get blown or blown out' Are you reading the books I mentioned before? The black book (i just emailed it to you again) The war of art The way of the superior man The Charisma Myth The art of seduction 48 laws of power Yeah so it takes time to work through your own bullshit - we all give ourselves bullshit, we all get in our own way at times. You don't need Chinese to be successful, we just finished the All Asia Pick Up summit which included both foreigners and Chinese guys in Korea - people from both groups got laid without being able to speak Korea or even English very in some cases. One of my Chinese students opened a foreign girl in Korea, she was from some Eastern European country, and spoke no English, he spoke zero of whatever language she spoke, he opened her and was making out with her without any language assistance. You don't need to 'learn more Chinese' before you can approach - thats look for excuses on why not to approach, you need to learn more Chinese AS you approach. It's one of the best ways to learn a language . So.....make a clear schedule: like Open a girl every day, and send a mini FR into the Wechat groups, also send us your chat history so we can give you feed back and help you keep improving. Kane