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    9 days of game self challenge: is this a good idea?

    in Mind of a Master

    Posted

    Why did you put reading and writing from 7-10pm?

     

    Seems like it would be better to push your day game time back 2 hours because 7-10 is also ideal date time so you'll likely end up skipping it on more than a few days.

     

    I think that you should set daily goals for your pickup and should probably spend some time brainstorming specific areas you want to improve and come up with goals that will exercise those.

     

    sent from RPQ's Galaxy...

    The Good Girls at Xiu (Thanks Kane)

    in Field Reports

    Posted

    Awesome! Yeah, from my perspective, if you're doing pickup right, you'll stay humble because you're always reaching.

     

    I think it's a good thing.

     

    Plus when you reach, you sometimes get and then, at least in my case, I feel the most awesome.

     

    Props in being honest with yourself (and sharing!), it ain't easy.

     

    sent from RPQ's Galaxy...

    The Good Girls at Xiu (Thanks Kane)

    in Field Reports

    Posted

    I've read this report several times but haven't replied because the way you wrote it seemed to imply that you felt you ran this pretty perfectly and it was circumstances that got in the way.

     

    It's true that circumstances get in the way--that's always the case--but you were so busy enjoying state that you weren't thinking and planning ahead.

     

    This is a major problem with all this state stuff. Back in the west, being in state really can be everything because if a woman likes you, she'll help to make it happen.

     

    Not so with the vast majority of Asian girls...remember there was no women's sexual liberation in Asia.

     

    That means that state doesn't count for much in my opinion. It's more important to make the right moves than to feel good about the moves.

     

    In fact, I think that real mastery in pickup, and in anything really, is when doing the right thing makes you feel good no matter the outcome.

     

    Feeling right leading to doing right is a losing strategy in the long run. It's no different really from "be yourself" because if you were emotionally wired in the best way to get the best girls, you would be getting them, period.

     

    Like becoming an expert in almost anything there are usually certain counter intuitive behaviors that need to be learned and internalized. Pickup is no different.

     

    Focusing on feelings will commonly lead you down the wrong path.

     

    Now, to get into the errors I see:

     

    1) not identifying that she lived nearby you early in the set

     

    With that knowledge, instead if focusing so much time on dancing and having a good time, you could have been focusing on setting things up so that you all went home but you shared a taxi with her and then tried to bounce home once your Jake and her friend were gone.

     

    Another option would have been for all 4 of you to bounce to the bar while the vibes were still good and then sending Jake and the obstacle home in taxis first leaving you with your girl to try for the home bounce.

     

    Arguably, this is the biggest error.

     

    2) not keeping up with Jake who you presumably know has weak game.

     

    Very likely, you lost this set because the obstacle was so bored with him that when she got another offer she immediately bailed on you and Jake.

     

    It's even possible that she started calling people so she could find something more fun to do.

     

    3) no time bridge!

     

    Time bridging IN PERSON is so much easier and give you a much better idea of where you stand with her than just getting WeChat.

     

    4) Paying too much attention to what other people in the bar were doing or thinking...this is totally irrelevant to your set.

     

    Keep your eye on the ball as they say.

     

    You need to FOCUS on what's going on right in front of you and think things through.

     

    You don't have mental energy to waste on unimportant elements.

     

    5) projecting instead of being present in the moment

     

    How did you not notice that she was fatter and older the first time? Probably because you weren't paying attention.

     

    You were more focused on re-enforcing your good feelings than on what was really happening.

     

    This makes it easy to blunder and make simple errors because what she needs from you to feel comfortable with progressing may be totally different from what makes you feel awesome.

     

    The most common error means that guys are are overly arrogant which makes them feel bold and dashing but often means the girl feels alienated and insecure.

     

    So, overall, I would say that while you did a lot well, it's the little things that mental laziness leads to missing and means the difference between getting something and getting nothing.

     

    I think you need to add a lot more strategy and planning into your game to move it up to the next level.

    FR: Daejeon, Seoul March Bootcamp, and Sunday night...

    in Bootcamp Field Reports

    Posted

    Kino should be seamless and smoothly escalated so the girl doesn't even realize it's happening.  This takes time to develop and if you're creeping girls out, that's GOOD!  Much easier to go too far then dial it back than go to slow because you'll learn faster.

    I think the Ukrainian girl was quite keen, but you needed to chill out a bit.  Admittedly hard to do after a boot camp weekend, I know I was TOTALLY wired and I didn't even drink all of the coffee you did.

    The same girls who go out in the daytime go out at night.  One of the goals of moving into qualification is to take away the "club" vibe and create a real connection as people rather than as club fixtures.

    * story telling: I'm not sure if I should try to be the cool interesting guy, or channel my innate Willy Wonka. I'm forming a vision that I could be like a playboy mad-scientist, eg. Guy Piece in "The Time Machine", doing nerdy things, but while making them stylish and cool.

    BOTH!


    The more colorful your character, the better.  You can calibrate he mix of the two according to how the qualification goes.


    I'm forming a picture that SNLing a girl, or at least extracting her, from a 2/3-set is almost impossible, so it's best to go for the D2.

    You do BOTH.  These are not mutually exclusive.  Set the day2 and still try and fuck her that night.  The fact that you're already planning to meet her again, reduces the ASD somewhat because it's not a one night stand.


    Good work and keep at it!


    My first Boot Camp FR

    in Bootcamp Field Reports

    Posted

    Good work, man!  Looking forward to working with you more and really getting you where you want to be with your game.

    Fun times in that last set...I'm surprised you didn't mention the 2-set of Engineering students from CoEx though and also that 2-set that you winged in the 2nd club on the first night who had the thing in her hair.  Remember the set that Brett opened?

    Tokyo Boot Camp, 19-21 February 2010

    in Bootcamp Field Reports

    Posted

    Fonda is a little high end for a D2, I'd say. I always go for "reasonable" places for D2's. Think about the frames you are setting from the start. Hint: it should NOT be about money. Look for someplace 'interesting', but not expensive. You're on the right track with the Mexican food.

     

    Think multiple bounces. Where else can you take her and what else can you do? Shopping on Takeshita-dori could be good for a laugh, kino, etc.

     

    Also, when & where is the costume party? Are you taking HB Audition?

     

    Yes, always a good idea to scout the area. Get there at least an hour early.

    Exactly.

    Seoul Bootcamp, December 2009

    in Bootcamp Field Reports

    Posted

    I have a day 3 soon with a professional singer/actress who I day 2 f-closed on the floor of her music studio on New Year’s Day, my first lay in months (sex with my ex not counting) and something I don’t think woulda happened if not for the bootcamp :D – but those details are for another Field Report.

    Holy FUCK! I can't wait to read this. Welcome to the crew!

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