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We would expect nothing less! NO SPORTSMANSHIP! Ref, you gotta stop this man! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ?????? What's the status on the next meet? Translation, please I think we now know the reason for a lot of Made You Look's relationship issues! I had a friend that was into this too...he said it made him feel like he had a big dick.

Great job, man! So, what's the next step for you from here, and do you have any other thoughts about this challenge?

One of the best things to do in this situation is to say something like: You've known her for x number of years...so do you guys get into a lot of fights? (BT spike) So, why are you still friends with this girl (to the obstacle for another BT spike)? I mean, you could have picked a lot of girls to be friends with, why her? Hahahahahaha!!! This is how learning pickup works! Glad to see you engaging with the process! A good BT spike is to tell her to tell her mom that you said, "hi." You should have asked The ROCK if he wanted to switch targets. Should have asked her what she likes about that movie since it's basically what inspired her life path. You probably could have gotten some good qualification out of it. Did you mention that you teach elementary school in particular? I've noticed from your screenshots that girls seem to respond better to being an elementary school teacher than being a teacher in general. This was good, but better than, "so we can keep talking" you should say, "so you can hang out with me." It's a subtle shift, but this implies that she's missing out by not being able to spend more time with you while the other one implies it's mutual. When you were kakaoclosing her, you should have asked logistical info and tried to time-bridge or at least suggested a particular day. Here, you could have asked her to be your tour guide since she needs a job. This is really good seeding. Follow it up by suggesting a particular day to meet at least. Like you could have said, "what are you doing tomorrow or y day? I'll take you to that Mexican place I was talking about." Your sets are looking awesome! Really impressed with your progress and I hope you are too!

NICE!

Really good! Like short skirts but better. That's how I feel, BRO! Chicks...but good that you were prepared! That will still payoff for next time and with other dates. Awesome that you realized that! If you keep evaluating your sets like that, you're going to get real good real fast. Keep going, you're getting closer. YES!

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Is there an FR for this? I'd love to read it. Good on you for getting out there anyway and doing what you could. How do you think you would have run the sets better if you were feeling better? Seems like you struggle when the girl doesn't have really good reaction off the open and first BT spike. You should come up with something to do when their response is more mild like in this case. Come up with some ideas and we can workshop them. TWO bounces in one day game session! That's awesome! ? Hahahaha...I KNOW that feeling! It happens, for sure. It's all a part of the game. I probably would have told her that it's nice to see some tan skin because in Korea, everyone looks like ghosts! Yeah, totally! How did you like opening girls in bikinis? Lols. Probably needed something to interrupt her pattern, like making funny faces at her or mirroring her and saying, "Yes" to everything. Hahahahaha! Nicely done! Crushing it with the bounces! You've improved a lot since the beginning of summer. Really awesome to see you putting in the effort and reaping the reward. I'm looking forward to running some sets with you when I'm in Seoul at the end of August!

Great review. I also liked this book a lot, but some people who weren't familiar with his stuff, didn't enjoy the book and felt that the stories were annoying and didn't help support his rules. I thought it was great though...basically an applied version of Maps of Meaning.

Great breakdown of what's in Nudge. Other books in this genre that you can check out: Predictably Irrational Thinking Fast and Slow Influence Pre-Suasion (not a type-o) I recommended Nudge because it provides the most obvious, straight forward applications while these other books muddy the waters a lot more and sow the degree of complexity a lot more.

Great write up! I need to take notes on Kane's teaching methods, he's killing it.

Though I generally agree with you, I think that in the case of Jordan Peterson, his material is so dense that I don't find it slow at all. And here's the link:

Hahaha I like your criticisms. I haven't read Maps of Meaning, but it is on my list. I'd be keen to see how the book differs from the lecture. He adds in new material regularly, so I imagine that the lectures are more interesting. I think that you missed one key aspect of what he teaches though and maybe that's because it wasn't emphasized in the book or maybe that's because of what you just didn't think was very important. One of the best insights as far as I'm concerned is how our actions are aims nested within larger aims, nested within larger aims that become more abstract. So that successful person, has good career, good friend, good brother, good sister, etc nested inside and then each of those has other aims nested until you get down to particular actions. I thought this was a great way to look at your life and allows people to constrain their negative emotion better by making clear distinctions between parts of your life that aren't going well and those that are and being able to analyze things at the most useful resolution levels. So his concept of "resolutions" for me, has been one of the most valuable tools I've started using. The other part of his model that I found very useful, you also described but quite differently from how I took it in from watching the lecture series. The dual positive and negative aspects of the individual, society and culture, and nature. Thinking of this as the world that we have to navigate and essentially when you encounter chaos, it is because one of those things has manifested what we see as an anomaly because our existing mental model didn't account for that particular phenomenon. I like the process of analyzing which of those things is the cause of whatever misery you might be experiencing and then reconstructing a new mental model based on the information you got from that phenomenon. The fact that evil can be broken down into those categories, makes it far easier to contend with because it means that problem is somewhat constrained. As far as your application to game, I agree with everything you've written and I glad that you took the time to share this with all of us. I'm looking forward to your write-up on Nudge, too!

What about HB White dress? Are they reading and not replying or not reading at all?

Great work keeping at it! What's happening with your text follow up? You're getting a lot of Kakaos...out of the girls you meet in a day or a week, how many of them are replying?

Probably not that important to change anything here. The main consideration was whether you should have tried more for the bounce first and then done the time-bridge if the bounce didn't go. In a situation like this though where she didn't know how much time she has, probably a sangria bounce wouldn't have worked well because it's too much of at time commitment. An ice cream or coffee bounce or even just a "walk" would be better. This is one of those things that is a judgement call in the moment so it's hard to know the best move without more experience and trying different things. Also, Sangria is better as a day 2 or with a girl who has a lot more time. So you could still try for that with this girl later. You should have told her you never heard of it and asked her what's cool about there. Then if she didn't reply with anything useful you could have moved into the Japanese food thread. High fives after BT Spikes can also work for this.

We should get a coffee after your done to CELEBRATE!

I said something about them both studying to be flight attendants. There was a study book on the table and then went to the bathroom. I meant, how did you handle the boyfriend objection from her? Did you tell her that you couldn't hear her well and ask her to speak louder?

Any idea why you didn't at the time? How did you handle this?

There have been several times where you had a hard time understanding what girls said. Did you ever try asking them to speak more slowly? I've done this in Japanese where I tell them that they should talk to me like I'm a 7 year old.

Great boot camp FR, man! It's normal to feel AA. The trick is to 1 now that logically it's sill and two, find ways to trick yourself to overcome it. Find the easiest environment for you to run your game in and then up the difficulty level as that becomes normal for you. You should also start an approach log like the ANIMAL is doing to keep you motivated and on track. Good work and keep at it!

What happened when you tried to instadate her? Definitely a good option. You can go back to them later when your skills are better. Yeah, exactly! It happens. Do you have a strategy for when you have trouble sleeping? When I was really stressed, I used to have trouble falling asleep, and it was even worse because back then I didn't have much time to sleep so that would make me worry even more. Eventually, I found that imagining myself sleeping worked pretty well and the problem pretty much went away. Since you get this objection frequently, do you have a standard response for it? Great reason to try and time-bridge...it's good to get those objections out. I fully endorse this plan! I agree that you've definitely improved. By being consistent you an clean systematically clean up more and more of the small things that are having a detrimental effect on your sets. One thing I think that you should take into account is your energy levels. On days, when they are super low, you should go with lower energy opens, like waves, or you can do open and eject with something like short compliments so that you can still win instead of pushing yourself for more than you have the capacity to deliver. Good work and keep at it, man!

I know this is a problem of mine. She was giving me US attitude. I like korean girls not just because they are hot but because they are cute and fun. It just turns me off. This was a mistake. I got on thinking the girl was near but I didn't see where she went. I was tired from working overtime and just wanted to get home. Any suggestions for this? I think that when you're tired you should cut yourself some slack. No big deal. As long as you understand what's happening and why you can understand what variable effect your performance.

Why did you eject? Were you in a hurry to get somewhere? And if the set was going well, why didn't you try to time-bridge and #close? NICE! Keep up the good work!

Always try, anyway. You don't need to ask about the boyfriend, but that is one option. Other options are to say that since you'll just be friends, it's fine, or to tell her that if things don't work out with him, you should meet. While it's true that girls mentioning their boyfriends on the day 1 makes them low probability, you're already in the set so try to do as much with it as you can. Then not her friend, her date, right? Knowing she had a date on the way you knew you were working with a short time constraint. You should have progressed to the time-bridge and number close sooner. Great! You'll be more ready next time. Was she against time-bridging because she couldn't agree on a time or because she wasn't interested in meeting you again? WHy do you think so?

Personal call according to how much effort you want to put into her. Did you try to set a time-bridge or #close her? Great to remember for next time! Did you know she was with her friend or was she waiting for her friend but you didn't know that or..? Did you try to time bridge or #close? The best you can do is to run tour guide game, pretty much. Please write this up in detail. Presumably you tried to time-bridge because she showed interest in some of your seeds. Or was this just a hail mary even though she wasn't giving you much compliance? Now is a great time to think of what you could have said. Any ideas? Somehow? What are some ideas?