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Great write up, man. It's been awesome having you on the team!

This was a great weekend and a great start to the future. I'm really looking forward to coaching you through your continuing progress!

Yeah, it's good to point out that that is really more night game than day game...however, day time make-outs for example are totally possible. I don't think they're very useful for progressing the pickup as it's very likely you'll trigger ASD before you can get her to a sex location, but it is a fun thrill!

Oh, man! Reliving the Osaka weekend. So sad to be gone... Awesome work over the weekend, man! Hopefully you can start setting things up so that when I show up you can toss me some friends of girls you already have for some easy layups on my part, lols. Why didn't you mention the 3-set we got to have ramen with us?

Girls usually put obstacles up to control the sexcalation. Good you noticed the bag and that it was in the way, but that doesn't mean she did it consciously. All you can do is remove the obstacle which you did. So...why don't you just ask these two questions? Don't focus on why and if she's going to have sex with you, focus on finding out how she is about sex. Also, check this thread: http://www.asiandatingmonthly.com/reloaded/viewtopic.php?f=11&t=5408

You gave up way too easily. She was at your house, and she shut down one attempt at sexcalation. Seems to me that YOU felt more awkward than she did and YOU wanted to move away from the situation as quickly as possible. I fully understand, that this isn't what you're used to and we've all been there. But this is the same as ejecting from a set too quickly because you don't know what to do next or how to handle the particular situation. So, instead of heading to the park (which I think is actually a good move, but just pulled out too early in this case) is to start a discussion that would get you some answers to these questions. Assumptions are very dangerous. Girls you think are shy can be really sexual and vice-versa. They may be shy BECAUSE they KNOW how sexual they are. In any case, more dialogue. Did you find out anything about her or were you just talking about yourself?

1) what happens if someone comes to your apartment and she's there? 2) That's lazy thinking Sent from RPQ's iPad...

Congrats, man! Two questions: Why did you start by telling a fake story in deep comfort? Why did you want to kick her out after sex? Lastly, this is a day 2 close, not a same night lay. An SNL is when you go from meet to full close in the same night you meet her. Sent from RPQ's iPad...

Yeah, man! It was an awesome weekend. You guys all really shared some great parts of your life on Sunday and I was really impressed with your enthusiasm throughout. Good work and lots of fun times ahead for you! Sent from RPQ's iPad...

Well done, man! Good work and keep at it. Our advice will get you everywhere with women!

Thanks for starting this forum section! Good stuff.

Kane is just one point of contact. There are plenty of guys that are in cities alone and have succeeded. And mostly they've succeeded by consistently taking action and interacting with other guys who are ahead of them because as Kane said, they went through the process earlier. It's all about how much you want it. Plenty of guys have moved cities, and changed jobs so they could be more successful. Every country in Asia has it's tier 2/3 cities. What do we tell those guys? MOVE! The guys who live in Daejon, Daegu, and Busan all move to Seoul. Why? Well... There is an apocryphal story about a bank robber named Willie Sutton. When asked why he robbed banks he said, "That's where the money is." You're blaming Kane for not being as available to you, and you're blaming the Beijing Boners group chat for being ahead of you. You're not supposed to be able to relate to them. THEY can relate to YOU because they had problems with women as well. I had(have!) problems, and Kane does too. We're climbing the same mountain and we happen to be higher up than you. That means we can lower a rope down to help you climb up faster and easier. You're focusing on us having a better view of things from up here rather than focusing on the rope we've dropped down so you can join us and see the beautiful view for yourself. Go out to a mall or a cafe, or anywhere you can find a girl. Try to make yourself approach. When you have trouble post that into the group chat. We'll be there to give you support. If you don't do your part, we can't do ours. Keep at it, you can make it. Grab the rope!

Not sure who would disagree with this...This kind of open can be really good. ESPECIALLY if you don't wait for her response. In fact, I think that's what makes it work. Before your boot camp, you probably would have put her in a taxi and sent her home! Hahahaha...then both of you would have been disappointed. Good work! They either want it or they want to want it! Lols. I had a friend who this was his standard move...invite girl over for food, not have any food, and just start pouring drinks. Props and BRAVO!

Yeah, man! You were killing it over the weekend. Unstoppable. You and the Rock need to go head-to-head to see who can open every girl in the club first! Lols. Massive improvement. It was clear that Octagon made your head spin, but you stuck it out and ran some really good sets. Was great fun rolling with you. I've given you access to the VIP lounge, and I'm looking forward to more wild FRs from you! Also...MOVE TO GANGNAM!

Nice, man! You were killing it in Octagon on Saturday night which was hilarious because of the night before at Glam, so MASSIVE improvement! Also, I've given you access to the VIP lounge now. Looking forward to more FRs!

WTF!? As I always tell you, YOU TALK TOO MUCH! If you want to talk about something, make it fun. You're waaaaaay too serious, man. If you were going to say something like this, it should have been, "I made a mistake the other day by not bringing you up but my hamster was going CRAZY." You could probably think of something better, but you get the idea. Keep it fun and light. Making things serious makes everything a lot harder. I agree here...seems like you could have slowed things down and created more of a mood. Also, by progressing slowly, you can back up. If things go slowly it's like the old saying about slowly turning the temperature up on some frogs and they don't notice they're getting boiled alive. Ideally, you want to escalate that way too so that the girl doesn't realize how turned on she is until it's too late. "You want me to be your boyfriend?" You're too apologetic in general. She's a grown woman, she can take care of herself. She really can't blame you because only a total idiot chick goes to a guy's place drunk, when that guy has openly expressed sexual interest in her. But, I do think you could have escalated a bit more skillfully. You need more practice for sure. Good on you for really going for it though. That's the most important thing. Get blown or blown out!!

OH, man! AWESOME write up! Was a great weekend, for sure. And I'm looking forward to more updates from you going forward. Good work and keep at it!

We really need a lot more details about what she says because you're not listing her specific objections. Really need those to be able come up with a good strategy so we can Jujitsu the fuck out of everything she says so the only logical thing to do is to have sex with us. Really missing so much detail it's almost impossible to give you feedback. But it definitely seems like she was trying to give you every opportunity to close her. I WISH girls would tell me they need to come into my house, and use my bathroom and then lie in my bed. That shit NEVER happens. I think that maybe you don't have enough info about her to understand what's going on. Also, you don't even know if she's a virgin. When she asked you if you know why she can't see you, that would have been a great time to pop that question which frames the fact that she's afraid to lose her virginity as the only possible reason she doesn't want to see you...because if she does, she know that pop goes the cherry. Definitely need more investigatory questions...or you need a more detailed report, or BOTH. Good work and keep at it!

That's exactly why we have this forum and all the other follow up. So we can help you as you deal with the various subtleties that come up. That's also why we have the WeChat group, so people who have been through it before can advise you and give you feedback. The boot camp is just the beginning. It lays the foundation so that you can put yourself in the right situations you need to learn and develop and get the results you want. If you look, you'll see that many of the guys write daily or weekly updates to track their progress, not patterns and move along. Good work getting your first post up and keep at it!

Yeah, man. Either she knows what she's doing and she picked you, or she's making a gross error. Either way...YOU WIN!!! I was there back when I was 25/26 and I got the first fine girl I ever got who stuck around. And she kept telling me how cool I was. And at first, I thought she was crazy, and I just assumed she'd leave me once she figured out what's what. BUT, she stuck around for months and months...over a year, in fact. And she kept telling me how cool I was. I don't know why, and it doesn't matter. What does matter is that eventually, I started to believe her. If not for that girl, I probably never would have developed this far. So...why not invite her over and cook dinner? Have wine ready and have her bring dessert.

Good times over the weekend and great report, man. SUPER sweet having you as part of the team!

Thanks, man. It was a REALLY awesome boot camp and you're a great addition to the team. Also, you've stuck with it and are doing even better now than before. I'm so proud Can't wait to see you on November 6th for the next boot camp. Come out if you can and support the new guys!

So, there are two broad things going on here. One is you figuring out how to best live and manage yourself and your life so you can get more of what you want. The second is the actual implementation of your game. My reading of what you wrote basically says that when you feel like you know what you're doing, and you're already good at it, you have no problem doing it. On the other hand thins that require more energy or active engagement because you don't yet know how to do them are put on a lower priority. I'm wondering why you didn't realize much sooner that warm up sets help? Is that because you haven't been spending time trying to figure out how to get yourself to approach women? If so, then it's clear that you're not putting enough time into it. As for figuring out how to make your sets go better, we need A LOT more detail about what's happening in set, what you're saying and trying to accomplish and how women are reacting to that as well as what's happening in the follow up to the initial meet. Looking forward to reading more from you, man. Good work and keep at it!

So, there are basically 2 ways to deal with this problem. One is to come up with really good answers for those questions that stop you from taking action. So, who are you and why should they bother and how can you unconfuse them? The other way to handle it is to replace those thoughts with thoughts that help directly. Maybe by focusing on what it is you want out of the interaction, what kind of person you are looking to find and seeing the interaction as a why to find her. Maybe in this case early on, throwing out an SOI (Statement of Interest/Intent) might help, because, who doesn't like compliments? May or may not be ideal for getting the girl, but I find that a lot of guys feel more comfortable if they compliment the girl after the open. Number of sets is a good goal. But you also need to add in what you require yourself to attempt in each set. So, is open and ejecting OK or do you need to try to bt spike as well, for example? sent from RPQ's Galaxy...

Seems like it's worth starting with that and seeing how it goes. If those goals work for you, then they're good enough. sent from RPQ's Galaxy...